Stay Confused: Navigating Growth and the Unknown as a Therapist
The unknown is not to be feared but explored
Therapists are often drawn to this work because they want to help, to offer clarity, and to make a difference. But the reality of therapy—especially in the early years—is filled with uncertainty. Stay Confused explores how learning to embrace the unknown is not just part of the job but an essential ingredient for growth.
Through interviews with leading therapists—including Jean McLendon, Pauline Boss, Bill Doherty, Shadeen Francis, Sabrina N’Diaye, and Vienna Pharaon—the book delves into the pivotal moments that shaped them, the lessons they learned, and the role of mentorship in making peace with the unknown. Their insights reveal that self-doubt, discomfort, and even failure are not obstacles to overcome but natural parts of becoming a more present and effective therapist.
Blending research, personal reflection, and real conversations with experienced clinicians, Stay Confused challenges the idea that certainty equals competence and instead invites therapists to lean into ambiguity with curiosity and courage.
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